My best friend is currently moving out of her house to live with her boyfriend, as we speak. Why are you not over there helping her you ask?! Well, I had to get the oil changed in my car BADLY. So I aske my husband to do it so that I could save a little money...NOT. I figured it would be cheaper this way but boy was I wrong. He ended up spending about 50 dollars on just the oil, the filter, and whatever else you have to put in there...and then when it came down to it he couldnt get the screw off of the pan (or whatever) to drain the oil...so 5 hours later hes going off to buy a new screw to put in there since they managed to take the old one off but wont be able to put it back on. (thats another few dollars btw) So shes over there moving on her own. Hopefully everything is going about as smoothly as possible. Shes an only child and her grandparents and mom are....attached, to say the least. Shes going through a transition that I couldnt bring myslef to go through when I graduated high school. Granted, she just graduated college but still. I couldnt bear to leave my mom and my little brother....just thinking about not being able to see them would drive me to tears then. Her situation is completely different though and Im sure she'll be able to see her family as often as she wants since she will be in the same city. But when you think about the amount of change that goes on just moving from one house to another, its overwhelming. Im sure after the homesickness wears off, and the grandpreants get used to not having her around, and the dogs get used to each other and to thier new homes, and her and her boyfriend get used to seeing each other every day, everything will be fine. Shes going to go through the transition and adjust very well. Shes pretty strong. And in the end, she should know that her family and friends will love her, no matter what. Im here for you always, and you know that, so talk to me! (and yes I know youre reading this because youre a blog stalker :] )I still cant even picture myself moving out to be with J. I love him, but thats a WHOLE lot of change for me. I have it pretty good at home, and sometimes even just being here all weekend I get homesick. But when the time comes, Ill be ready :)
On the other side of town another friend of mine is going through the opposite transition, a break up. Note that it didnt happen yesterday, but its still hard. Its been maybe a week or so. And she found out that shes pregnant. What a knife through the heart. Now shes not as close to me as my other friend but I still want to be there for her if she needs me. A baby is another HUGE transition, but I know shes also strong and she will be able to handle it wonderfully. Shes a very good mother already and maybe God will bless her son with a little sister. Babies change your life so much. You almost have to stop caring for yourself, to care for your baby. Especially if its just you. Money has to be re budgeted, rooms have to be redistributed or shared, time, patience, work, doctors, clothes, toys, pampers, engery, phew! I hope that she knows that her friends and her family will be there for her, just like they have been before. The ex is not being helpful, but maybe he will come around and be civil at least. Emotions always make people irrational. But if youre reading this, remember to 'live and let die'. Because as much as you want the relationship to go on living forever, maybe God has a different plan for you and you have to just let it go. And if you need to talk, you have my number and my facebook address.
Im here for you both. Just in case : )
